Pisces, This Is the Person You Need to Worry About
Why Your Desire to Heal Is Becoming Their Free Pass
You have always believed that love means seeing the wounded parts of someone and staying anyway. That instinct is beautiful, but this specific person is exploiting it. Every time you try to set a boundary, they somehow turn the conversation into a story about how hard their childhood was or how misunderstood they feel by everyone else. Suddenly, you are no longer asking them to call before coming over. You are apologizing for making them feel unwelcome. The original issue dissolves completely, replaced by your guilt for daring to ask for basic respect.
They know that if they frame their bad behavior as a trauma response, you will immediately switch from partner or friend to therapist. Last Tuesday, when you finally mentioned that their chronic lateness was wearing you down, they did not apologize. They explained how anxiety makes time management impossible for them. By the end of the dinner, you were the one comforting them for being stressed about being late. This happens constantly. Your desire to heal gives them a permanent excuse to avoid growing up. They do not need to change their habits because your compassion covers the difference every single time.
